Counsellor/Psychotherapist working in central Leeds and Harrogate but within easy reach of Horsforth, Bradford, Otley and Ilkley. MBACP(Accred).
Coronavirus update: At present I am only working remotely via video or voice call.
Hello . Are you troubled? Going through a bad patch? We can all experience difficulties in our lives. Do you think the same things over and over, unable to stop, or make sense of it! Do you notice patterns or themes repeating in your life? Without understanding where all this comes from how can you change it? If you understand the part you play in any relationship you can then change it. It's the only part you have any control over.
Would it be good to be able to deal with these situations in a different way. To understand yourself better and to be able to do something about it? With some help and looking at things from a different perspective you could change it! How would that feel? Taking some control back! Talking to a counsellor/psychotherapist in a safe supportive space could be the first step!
Counselling/psychotherapy will give you the time and space to explore and understand what is making you feel unhappy. This can be stress and anxiety, depression, relationship problems, low self-esteem, feeling worthless, you may not even know, you just want something to change! To feel different. Have you ever considered why you do what you do? What causes you to react the way you do in certain situations. Becoming aware of this and understanding the triggers behind it can lead to you being able to make different choices about the path you wish to take moving your life forward.
This can seem very daunting when life is difficult and there is no clear path forward! You may have the view that you should be able to sort your own problems out, however looking for counselling is a positive move, you recognise you have a problem and wish to do something about it. Is it time to consider investing in yourself, your life and your future? Do you value yourself and your own wellbeing? How important do you feel you are? Do you consider your needs, or just everyone else's? Self care is really important.
I am an Integrative counsellor/ psychotherapist based in central Leeds and Harrogate but within easy reach of Horsforth, Bradford, Otley and Ilkley . I am counselling in central Leeds at premises that are seven minutes walk from Leeds train station and meter parking outside. As a counsellor in Harrogate I am also located near public transport, both maps are on my location page.
Talking to someone outside your circle with a more objective perspective can be very helpful.
Does Counselling & Psychotherapy work?
It certainly can work. Being able to talk openly and honestly, being heard perhaps for the first time can be a very positive experience.To have your feelings acknowledged! To have a better understanding of yourself can help you to see things from a different perspective. Often when we look back we feel we should have done differently but at the moment we do things it is because we feel it is the right thing to do. As your counsellor I can tailor the approach best suited to you, and I will offer you a safe space where we can work together to achieve your personal growth and change.
How it works
In therapy we look at where you are today as a person, your relationships, what you like, what you wish to change and how you can achieve that change. It is important that the counsellor/ psychotherapist listens in an empathic, non-judgemental way whilst being perceptive and insightful. The first person you have to be honest with is yourself! It's common to be stuck in patterns that no longer serve you well but you may be unaware of these patterns so are unable to change them without help which is quite normal. If you have followed these patterns all of your life you can feel they are part of who you are!
I can help you with:
- Relationship Issues
- Stress and Anxiety
- Self Esteem and Confidence Building
- Coping with Grief, Loss & Bereavement.
I've made a positive difference to many people's lives, see some of my client testimonials on the next page.It's normal to feel anxious or depressed when life is difficult and the future seems uncertain.
These patterns usually start as a way of coping with difficult situations and they can start in childhood. As they are a way of making you feel better you use it again, this stops you from looking at other ways forward, and thus the pattern of repeating behaviour is formed.
Common self-defeating patterns:
- Needing to be perfect
- Not listening
- Being a victim
- Holding grudges and bringing them up in arguments
- Always being right
- Making excuses for not doing things, large or small
- People pleasing
- Being attracted to the same people who don’t treat you well, even though they seem different at first.
These are only a few, the list is enormous but it gives you an idea of the patterns we create.
Part of the therapeutic process is to help you to see yourself from a new perspective and to become more self-aware. To look at how the patterns were formed and then slowly begin to change them. Therapy can work to bring about positive change. .
Counselling/Psychotherapy within easy reach of Leeds, Harrogate, Horsforth, Bradford, Otley, Ilkley, and Guiseley ..
- Needing to be perfect