How can counselling help?
Life can be very challenging at times and it can be difficult to make sense of what is happening. Feelings of despair and anxiety causing you to feel out of control and unsure where to turn and what to do about it but knowing you can't carry on as you are and something is going to have to change.
Counselling gives you an opportunity to explore what is going on for you? Why you do what you do and what drives that reaction, what is the layers behind this and the triggers that set you off on that downward spiral?
Learning what and understanding your inner process eventually will challenge your perspective of your reality and through this knowledge and understanding you will have the opportunity to change the way you react to certain situations. You do this through self-reflection and self-awareness, to understand what part you play in any relationship, this is the only part you have any control over. Without understanding how this all works and affects you how can you change anything? To identify patterns of learned behaviour, where it comes from, how it affects you and how you can change it gives you choices for a different path forward. In the time I have worked with clients these are very common themes but a different perspective can enable you to think and feel differently about your issues.
Through the counselling process my clients have been helped to:
- consider aspects of their lives they want to change
- view their situation from a different perspective
- gain insight into their behaviour, thoughts and feelings
- find their own solutions to their problems
- develop coping strategies
- make informed decisions
- create positive changes
- take control over their lives
- grow and develop.
Building trusting relationships
The foundations for building a trusting relationship with my clients are:
- provide a safe and supportive setting
- respect the client's principles and coping resources
- refrain from being judgemental
- avoid stereotyping or labelling
- shelve personal prejudices
- respect client confidentiality
- maintain impartiality, integrity and reliability.
Counsellors help clients look at what is possible, but they avoid telling clients what to do. That would be the counsellor taking control rather than the client gaining control.
I have worked extensively with grief and bereavement, which includes complicated grief, sudden death, RTA, suicide but also have experience of working with stress, anxiety, relationships, low self-esteem, OCD,ME, Still birth, PTSD, sexual orientation, depression, alcohol misuse, life direction and self identity.
I have worked with clients both long and short term at a pace to suit the client and their individual needs.
"You helped me work through mental challenges that I believed were not possible to overcome. I now feel so much better and continue to use the skills you taught me every day. Having worked with many counsellors and therapists in the past, I can honestly say that you were the only one to truly give me what I needed to overcome the mental difficulties I had faced for so many years. Thank you so much".
"I wasn't aware of deep rooted problems from childhood that I'd never spoken about and that when I'd opened up a lot of my present problems stemmed from this. This has helped me to re-assess what i need to do now".
"The sessions have made a positive difference to my life, concentrating on the fact I am worthy. The tools I have been given are now letting me move forward and enjoy life. I cannot thank you enough Lorna, your help has made a massive difference. I know I still have work to do but have never felt so positive and content before. I have learned so much, thank you".
"Lorna was easy to talk to and was invaluable in helping me to come to terms with my childhood issues and understand why I did and felt the things I did. Counselling is wonderful and should be a part of everyone's life in order to achieve a healthy well-being. Many thanks ".
"Learning about how to self-reflect and understand situations from another angle. It was also good to talk without being judged. Being given the tools to help myself".
"To have the opportunity to explore my feelings and thoughts without judgement. Thank you for helping me to wade through the grey!".
"Lorna helped me pick apart the issues that caused me a lot of anxiety in my life over many years and helped me see them from a new perspective. Things that never made sense and I use to dwell on now seem clearer. Lorna was a very warm, friendly and understanding person and the sessions I had with Lorna were most beneficial".
Counselling/Psychotherapy within easy reach of Leeds, Harrogate, Horsforth, Bradford, Otley, Ilkley, and Guiseley..